Lovings Lounge

A fantastic job opening for exotic, sensual touch- an awesome working atmosphere with only the highest spiritual goals in mind, where you’d work in the spirit of Tantra and feminist sisterhood. Only Goddesses need apply! That’s, if they’re 20-30 years old, gorgeous and thin. No experience needed.

The plain dumbness of this job post is just too much, on so many levels. Girls (you don’t deserve to be called women), you make people cum for money. Live with it. It can be something to be proud of - you’re not stealing, you’re not killing people in foreign countries, you’re likely to be the brightest point in someone’s day, and many of you nurture the emotional well being and soul of the people you touch as well as their bodies.

However, your need to dress up being a sex worker into “spiritual” clothes offends me. It offends the true Tantra practitioners. It offends the honest sex workers - ones self-aware, strong and honest enough to own that description and be proud of it. It offends every woman who owns up to her sexuality and desires. It offends every woman who’s not a standardized doll you demand, and all the thousands of men who prefer them that way. It’s a tired repetition of the 19th century’s “Oh, he overpowered me” and the 20th century’s “I would have never fucked him if I was not drunk”. It’s a spiritual spin on “a blow job is not really sex” - “if I call it ’spiritual healing, it’s not really sex’”.

Every truly knowledgeable (Red) Tantra practitioner I’ve known was over 40. That’s because they spent decades learning, going to retreats, doing work on themselves to reach the place of honesty and balance necessary to offer others this great gift. It’s a hard and demanding practice in which you have to face the conflicts about sexuality all of us become saddled with growing up, in addition to learning the infinite shades of body energies and myriads of techniques for breathing, movement, touch and guidance. A 20 year old Tantra Goddess? Right.

“Goddesses” come in all shapes and ages. Many of them don’t like to take that label - they don’t advertise as  or pretend to be superior to everyone else, especially not their sisters sex workers. Most work quietly and hidden to bring some joy and sexual forgiveness into people’s lives as well as the food on their children’s table. Some are loud and proud (and often funny and sharp), helping towards the time when sex workers will be recognized as fellow human beings, daughters, brothers, mothers. All are beautiful.

Your hypocrisy only reveals the broken parts of yourselves. Learn to forgive yourself, love yourself, and see in the mirror not the mask you paint over what you deep inside believe is ugliness (’cause everyone says it is), but truth. Then, you might presume to lead others on the path of self acceptance. You are a sex worker.

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Original ad (might be pulled from Craigslist, so I’m including it here):

We are a unique collective of open-minded, intelligent women who have discovered emotional
strength and financial freedom by channeling our sensual energy into elite bodywork service.
We currently have positions available for a few exceptional applicants.

If you have ever been the least bit curious about safely exploring your sexy side,
this position could change your life forever.
We operate as a hands-on Tantra training center where you earn as you learn.
Our concept was designed by highly conscious women who have mastered the art of
owning their sensuality and creating financial abundance by sharing it on their terms.

Our apprentices earn $400-$1,000 a week working part-time in a nurturing, relaxed, fun atmosphere.
They are young artists, visionaries, and students who are supplementing their income
and turning their dreams into reality.
We invite you to join this movement.
Again, we are all about female unity and empowerment.

If selected to join our community you will undergo training in bodywork with elements of Tantra, Yoga, Reiki, and Aromatherapy.
You will be taught how to use erotic touch safely to honor the deep need for connection among our high-end clientele.
Most importantly, we will provide you with ongoing support.

* * * Serious applicants MUST be slim, fit, extremely attractive, NON-SMOKING,
and be comfortable with their bodies ( i.e. sunbathing topless is not a big deal).
We will only consider applicants who demonstrate integrity & positive energy. * * *