Q: I’m 26 year old and I never had a bf. I only attract the wrong kind of guys (one of them has a gf!). What’s wrong???
PG 13 A: If there are guys who’re already showing interest in you, attracting men is not the problem. Let’s look at the other end – why are those people wrong (except for the one with a girlfriend)?
You might want to consider your expectations and figure if they’re too unrealistic. It’s also possible that you judge guys as unsuitable too fast – sometimes, it takes a bit of dating to find out if you like someone… and some men are a wonderful surprise once you get to know them. Relax, enjoy talking and going out with guys, and don’t put too many expectations into it – the best way to stay single forever is to approach every man as a potential “father of your children/till death do us part” candidate, and don’t even look at the ones who don’t fit.
If, on the other hand, you’re attracting only the toothless, head bashing, drunk, drugged out ogres, sit back and try to figure out why is this happening. What kind of image do you project? Is that woman someone a man of the kind you’re looking for finds attractive? If not, try to adjust your social image, and find social groups and situations in which those men are more likely to show up.
As an example of unrealistic expectations, two of my customers sat in my office one day, and complained how they never meet any really nice, sweet men who don’t want to only use them. Then, they proceeded to tell each other what those men should be like – great abs, tall, with fancy cars, and rich enough to throw huge amounts of money on them. Not a word about the guy’s personality or character. They looked at any potential relationship as a status and a money ticket, and then wondered why the men they meet are so shallow and materialistic…
I’m not saying that this is what you do – this is just an example of how our preconceived ideas of what we want can stand in the way of what we really need. Good luck finding a boyfriend, and remember that the combination of sexy clothes and a true, obvious interest in what a man has to say works every time!
From my generous experience, being a genuine, easy but honest slut helps too. (NOT an attention slut – just the old fashioned, sex loving slut.) Men love the fact that they don’t have to jump through the hoops, lie and pretend they’re something they’re not, to get into my panties – if I like ‘em and they turn me on, everything’s possible, and I’m very open about it. As a result, I’ve met a great many honest men :-). They come for the ass, they stay for the brains (and ass). Everyone wins.