Oh please let go of that penis!- part 2: performance
Woops, came too fast? What’s stopping you from going again?
Myth#2: You must get hard at the drop of a bra, and drill her for hours, and hours, and hours…
Truth: …and hours, and hours, and hours. You can see how it can get a bit monotonous, eh?
It really doesn’t matter whether your erection lasts longer than pyramids or not. What you do with it, or without it, is much more important. Are you having fun? Is your partner having fun? That’s all that matters.
An insecure woman in bed with an insecure man who’s having trouble with erection can get very unhappy about it, and so can he - but the erection is not a problem here. It’s “he doesn’t find me attractive” and “she’ll think I’m less of a man” thoughts. Take care of these, and you’re all right.
A premature ejaculation can be quite a compliment :-). Why don’t you slow down, but don’t stop playing after it, and see if the second time around lasts longer… and this might mean right away, in an hour or after a nap. Also, a lot of fun can be had training yourself to hold off, either by yourself or with a wickedly inventive partner who’d enjoy coming up with new ways to up the ante, so to speak. There are even sex toys designed specifically for stamina training.
Viagra & Cialis have its legitimate uses. They are certainly a boon to people with legitimate health concerns. But, just like the lube, they shouldn’t be a replacement for foreplay and good, fun sex.
It’s hard for me to believe that all the American men have suddenly developed erectile dysfunctions. If you’re dead tired or stressed out, your penis might not “work”. If you have emotional troubles or issues in the relationship or your life, it might not “work”. And sometimes, it doesn’t “work” for no particular reason at all, just like sometimes, you get hard at most inconvenient times. This is normal and healthy.
I like this physical honesty. It reminds me to sometimes slow down and check in with my lover, to maybe talk it over, relax a bit, connect a bit more. People who think that women are the only ones needing love with sex haven’t been with many men. The most renown escorts and courtesans are not the best because of the size of their breasts, or just for their beauty, or youth, or even their erotic skills (which can be considerable). They know the secret of making a man feel wanted, loved and cared for, even if it is for just an hour.
Celebrate the expressiveness of penis! It’s as telling as a man’s face and goes through all kinds of interesting moods. It can tell the truth when you don’t. It can perk up, lay there all depressed, laze about half interested, hide in fear, strut all proud, be demanding and pushy. There are many fun things you can do with a half-erect and soft penis that you can’t do with a hard one. If it were always the same, that would be boring!
If pleasuring us is important to you for the right reasons, you can give us endless orgasms with or without an erection. We can tell when you’re trying to prove something to yourself, and when you’re simply having fun helping us have fun. And we love it when you get off on making us get off!
